Childbirth - Normal Delivery
Childbirth Normal Delivery
The following birth story was submitted by a mother who asked us to keep her identity private but wanted to share her experience to give other parents-to-be the courage to face their fears:
“I decided to become a parent at twenty-two, and after trying for a few years to conceive, it was finally time. We were over the moon when we found out that we were having a baby girl. My husband and I had both grown up in large families and were looking forward to having more kids to spread the burden around. We called our little angel Lily because we thought she would make us a family of seven. Little did we know that she would change our lives forever.
Three months went by smoothly. I was actually starting to feel like a mother myself, knowing the tricks of the trade and how to support my body through labor. Then, one night, my waters broke. I got up to go to the bathroom, and when I came back, I collapsed on the floor. My husband called the doctor, who told us that our baby was in a transverse position and that it would be best if we delivered her by C-section. Our hearts were in our mouths, but we did what he said because we believed it was the only way to give our daughter the best chance at life.
The surgery was successful, and we were able to breastfeed right away. Unfortunately, after thirteen months, our daughter's health took a plunge, and she had to be hospitalized for several weeks. At that point, we understood the seriousness of the situation and that our sweet Lily might not make it. It was the lowest point in our lives, and we felt helpless because there was nothing more that we could do. Life seemed meaningless without our little girl in the house. She was the light of our lives and the reason we got up in the morning. Finally, after weeks of fighting for her health, the doctors said she was strong enough to come home. We were over the moon when she started walking and talking. It was like a dream come true. She still depends on us for most of her needs, and we are more than grateful to be able to be her parents. She is a strong little girl, and we are sure that she will be able to cope with anything that life throws at her. She is our inspiration.
I wanted to give other new parents some ideas on how to approach childbirth, because it can be a scary thing to go through. It's natural to feel worried, especially if you have a history of miscarriages or stillborn children in the family. Every woman is different, and what may work for one may not work for the other. But by following a few simple pointers, you can give yourself the best chance at a safe and easy birth. Here are some of my suggestions:
Know Your Limits
It is always advisable to know your limits. For me, that meant taking care of myself physically and mentally during pregnancy and avoiding too much stress. I had heard horror stories about babies being born with deformities because their mothers were constantly stressed during pregnancy. It's true that there is a lot that you can do to prepare for birth, but there is also a lot that you cannot do. Trying to do too much may end up backfiring. For instance, I started cooking new recipes when I got pregnant, but towards the end, I found that my appetite had diminished, and it was a struggle to get the right nutrients. If you find that your body changes during pregnancy, especially in ways that you did not expect, it may be a good idea to consult with your doctor. But, as a general rule, you should only focus on what you can control – your diet, rest, and exercise. Your body is a temple, and you should treat it that way.
During pregnancy, it is important to take regular breaks and not to overwork yourself. When your body undergoes a lot of changes, it may not respond well to too much stress, and that can lead to complications. That is why I always tell new mothers to take a break when they need one. A lot of people think that once you have had your baby, your worries are over and you can push yourself back to your old self. That could not be farther from the truth. Instead, you have a new set of worries that are more demanding than before. Your body is not designed to handle such stress, and that can lead to serious problems. So, it is important to prioritize your needs and those of your baby. It is not easy to be a new mother, and you should not be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Your partner, your parents, your siblings, and your other relations – they are all there to help you, and that should make you feel glad and not guilty. Also, make sure to breathe. Take long walks, go for a swim, or just do whatever makes you feel peaceful and comfortable. Suck on an orange, and you will feel like you have just tasted the sunshine. Your body needs oxygen, and that is what is making you breathless. So, take your time and do not be in a rush.
Giving birth is an extremely personal experience, and that is why I do not want to dictate exactly what you should or should not do. However, I would like to share some of my experiences so that you can have a better idea of what to expect. As I mentioned before, my daughter was almost born with missing teeth, and it took a lot of elbow grease to get her teeth fixed. At one point, she had over a hundred cavities, and because she was so sickly as a baby, she had to have a lot of dental work done – including a gastronomy appliance to assist in feeding. She still has problems with her teeth, and it is something that we must monitor and work on daily. It is also terrifying to think about the risks that you may take with giving birth – dehydration, infections, or problems with the baby's lungs. Each one of these is potentially life-threatening, and that is why you must weigh the risks and the benefits of having children. Ultimately, it is a personal decision that you have to make, and it may take a lot of courage to do so. But in the end, I am sure that you will make the right choice and be glad that you did. And, as I said before, knowing your limits is the key to a healthy and happy family life – both for you and your baby.